1. Porn can re-wire arousal until the fantasy feels like an identity
Several detransitioned people say heavy porn use trained them to eroticise the idea of having the other sex’s body. The loop of high-speed images plus masturbation slowly turned a scene they watched into a role they wanted to live. One straight woman who had a double-mastectomy now calls her desire to be a gay man “porn-dysphoria”: “I fantasised about my gay friends… I wanted to penetrate him… yet I didn’t have a penis, so that gave me great self-hate. It caused many unrealistic and irrational desires including wanting to have a male body.” – rockandroll666 source [citation:83be3f57-dbf5-42d5-a4e8-e592a015287b]
When the screen was switched off for weeks, the urge faded; one relapse brought it rushing back, suggesting the feeling was glued to the habit, not to an in-born self.

2. Early exposure locks stereotypes into the brain before real-life experience arrives
Starting at eleven or twelve leaves a child with no counter-weight to the scripts they see. A detrans man explains: “People don’t know but porn absolutely can influence your sexual attraction, gender, and kinks. It doesn’t just stay a fantasy when you watch it that much… imagine how your 11-year-old brain handled it.” – spamcentral source [citation:57bea4dc-9294-4daa-b545-5fc46b8253b5]
Because the films show only rigid roles—big dominant men, small submissive women, or hyper-feminised males—the viewer can conclude, “I don’t fit the box I was given, so I must belong in the other one,” instead of questioning why boxes exist at all.

3. Stepping away from porn lets the mind re-attach to the body and to reality
Again and again, detransitioners report that a break of a few months dissolved both the erotic pull and the accompanying dysphoria. “I stopped watching it—all my thoughts have disappeared after a while… once I relapsed… the thoughts came back.” – va____ source [citation:0362d183-17c7-47fd-bdb7-b81855bd3325]
Therapists in the threads suggest filling the freed-up hours with sports, art, music, or volunteering—activities that reward the brain for living in the present body instead of an imagined one. Over time, many discover that their unease was less about gender and more about anxiety, loneliness, or simply boredom.

4. Confusing a fetish with an identity can lead to irreversible steps you later regret
Some users took hormones or had surgery while arousal was still steering the ship. Looking back, they wish someone had said, “Feelings that vanish when the Wi-Fi is off probably don’t need a scalpel.” One woman, now minus her breasts, warns: “It was all unhealthy… I had top surgery and I regret it.” – rockandroll666 source [citation:83be3f57-dbf5-42d5-a4e8-e592a015287b]
Their stories underline the value of waiting, experimenting with gender non-conformity in clothes or hairstyle first, and seeking talk-therapy or support groups before considering any medical path.

Conclusion
The accounts show that pornography can turn a passing day-dream into a convincing life-plan by pairing pictures with powerful chemical rewards. When the stream of images stops, many people find the plan loses its grip, revealing that the discomfort was not a fixed “wrong body” but a malleable set of feelings shaped by pixels and stereotypes. Choosing gender non-conformity—dressing, speaking, and living in ways that feel right without renaming your sex—offers a creative, non-medical route back to self-trust. If you give your mind weeks or months free of sexual media, fill that space with real-world connection, and let your thoughts settle, you may discover that the most authentic version of you was there all along, simply waiting for the screen to go dark.