Gender ideology clashes with homosexual identities because it replaces same-sex attraction with gender stereotypes.

1. Reframing homosexuality as “gender confusion”
People who once identified as lesbian or gay describe being told they were simply “eggs” who needed to transition. “I’ve had lesbian friends harassed at rallies by people saying ‘you aren’t gay you just need to transition’… If the axioms of T are taken as true, then there is no need to accept gay people as homosexual tendencies can simply be described as a gender dysphoria and be pressed to change.” – StatsDog source [citation:6ca7dfef-d0b4-4b96-9062-66a5dca4abb8]
In this view, a woman who loves women is not a lesbian; she is “really a man” whose body failed to match her “gender identity.” Same-sex attraction is erased and medical transition is offered as the “cure.”

2. Stereotypes that erase tomboys and feminine men
Gender ideology relies on rigid boxes: masculine women must be men, feminine men must be women. “It completely dismisses the mere notion of a tomboy or a feminine man… Oh, you’re a girl who likes climbing trees… That must mean you’re actually a dude!” – TheDorkyDane source [citation:fb89371b-a066-4025-871c-9db9b5e2c2e4]
This harms lesbians and gay men who have always defied those stereotypes; their non-conformity is re-labeled as proof they are the opposite sex.

3. Silencing and outlawing lesbian-only spaces
When lesbian gatherings exclude males, they are branded discriminatory. “In Australia it is illegal for lesbians to have lesbian-only events. Illegal! but I am not allowed to talk about that at all because it somehow makes me hateful/bigoted/transphobic.” – punk_stitch source [citation:f5d1ec4d-36d6-4e77-ad05-f5b9e36d38b4]
The result is that homosexual people lose the very spaces created to celebrate same-sex love.

4. Nonsense labels like “he/him lesbians”
Even the word “lesbian” is twisted. “Sounds like ol’ girl is a female homosexual, but innate sexual orientations aren’t allowed in gender ideology… Your friend’s attraction is valid, the labels are not.” – ChockMeBabbie source [citation:6fc4a600-7a05-449d-b151-dd026bfa7cad]
By insisting that pronouns override biology, the ideology denies that homosexuality is about attraction to the same sex.

5. Gender non-conformity as the authentic path
Many detransitioners now celebrate butch lesbians and flamboyant gay men as proof that personality does not determine sex. “Hard-core butch lesbians and flamboyant gays are the true heroes… They show everyone that you can be exactly as masculine or feminine as you’d like and still be a woman or a man.” – Affectionate_Act7962 source [citation:95dbc366-35fc-445a-9ef4-2e2bea81ec28]
Rejecting gender boxes affirms both homosexual identity and the freedom to be oneself without medical intervention.

Conclusion
Homosexuality is simple: it is attraction to the same sex. Gender ideology complicates it by insisting that attraction must be filtered through stereotypes and medical identity. The stories above show that stepping outside those stereotypes—living as a masculine woman or a feminine man—offers a clearer, kinder, and non-medical path to self-acceptance.